Raising a Child with Autism: Ashley Patrick’s Story of Advocacy and Community
When Ashley Patrick became a mom, she never imagined she would step into the role of advocate, community builder, and fierce voice for inclusion. But when her daughter Gabby was diagnosed with autism at age two, Ashley’s life—and her mission—shifted forever.
Today, Ashley is not only raising three children (plus stepchildren), but also leading conversations about inclusion, accessibility, and what it really means to build a supportive “village” as a mom.
Here’s her story, shared on The Mami Collective Podcast.
Early Signs of Autism
Gabby was born in 2018, a healthy and joyful baby who hit milestones early. But by the time she was 18 months, Ashley began to notice changes.
Speech regression: Gabby lost words she had once used.
Personality shifts: She was no longer the bubbly, playful toddler Ashley remembered.
Social differences: While she kept up with walking and other milestones, her communication lagged.
Doctors first dismissed Ashley’s concerns, blaming the pandemic and lack of socialization. But her mom instinct told her otherwise. By age two, Gabby was diagnosed with autism level 3—a moment that reshaped Ashley’s perspective on motherhood.
From Diagnosis to Advocacy
The early days were hard. Speech therapy, specialists, and the overwhelming weight of “what ifs” left Ashley reeling.
She recalls grieving—not because autism was “bad,” but because she didn’t want to see her daughter struggle.
“You grieve the life you thought your child would have, and then realize they’re creating a new one that’s just as beautiful—if not more so.”
Gabby’s journey proved the experts wrong. Once told she may never speak, she is now a vibrant six-year-old who reads above grade level, communicates with sass and humor, and teaches everyone around her what true resilience looks like.
Building a Village
One of Ashley’s lifelines has been community. From meeting another mom in the therapy drop-off line to creating a group chat with fellow “autism moms,” she built a circle of women who “get it.”
That circle has since expanded into real-life events. On September 19, Ashley is hosting her first Inclusion Night at the Tinley Park Rec Center, bringing together parents, advocates, and specialists to create more support for families.
Ashley’s motto: “You don’t have to go through this alone.”
Common Misconceptions About Autism
Through her journey, Ashley has encountered plenty of myths and stereotypes. Here are a few she works to correct:
“All kids with autism are the same.” Autism is a spectrum—every child experiences it differently.
“Autism is an excuse for bad behavior.” It’s not. Meltdowns often stem from communication barriers or overstimulation.
“Girls don’t show signs.” Autism in girls can look very different from boys and is often misdiagnosed.
“Autistic kids are violent.” This harmful stereotype ignores the diversity and individuality of children.
Ashley doesn’t shy away from educating others—even if it makes people uncomfortable.
Life as a Working Mom
In addition to being a mom and advocate, Ashley works full-time as a probation officer. Balancing work, therapy schedules, and family life isn’t easy, but she credits her support system—including her husband, mom, and community—with helping her keep it together.
She also prioritizes mental health, seeing a therapist regularly and reminding other moms:
“You have to be the best version of yourself to be the best mom for your kids.”
A Message to Other Moms
For any parent beginning the autism journey, Ashley has three words: It’ll be all right.
She leans on music—especially “Rainbow” by Kacey Musgraves—as a reminder that storms pass and brighter days are ahead.
Most importantly, she wants moms to know they’re not alone.
“Find your community, believe in yourself, and don’t give up. The journey may look different, but it’s beautiful.”
Connect with Ashley
Instagram: @MrsPatrick16
Facebook: Ashley Thomas Patrick
Upcoming Event: Inclusion Night – September 19, Tinley Park Rec Center
Key Takeaways for Moms
Trust your instincts if you notice developmental changes.
Community is essential—build your village.
Autism looks different in every child.
Prioritize your own mental health as a mom.
Remember: It will be all right.